What is your self-worth? Do you value yourself more than others value you?
Growing up I never understood what “self-worth” was, I never cared about it. I always heard that you should value yourself and put your needs above the needs of others. So, you might be wondering, what is self-worth, and how do I see or know my self-worth?
What Exactly is SELF-WORTH?
The way I view self-worth; I like to look at it like how much something is worth. Now, let’s be clear your life is not worth any amount of money. Nothing is more valuable than your life, life is priceless and should not be bargained with. Self-worth is the sense of one’s own value or worth as a person.
When you are evaluating your self-worth. There are two things you must take into consideration. First, where is my level of self-esteem. Second how much have I invested in myself. I believe if you can honestly evaluate yourself, then you should be able to determine your self-worth.
Level of Self-esteem
What do I mean when I say where is my level of self-esteem? Well, it’s very simple. We are going to determine your self-esteem like a fuel gauge in your car.
Some people, find themselves at the bottom they are an empty tank. They lack self-esteem, they don’t respect themselves at all and feel no one else should either. We can all admit at some point in our life, we have been on “E.” Some people find themselves at the quarter of a tank mark. Those on a quarter of a tank, are those who have just a little self-esteem and they choose to use it very sparingly. Because, they have a fear of running completely out. Those people say they respect themselves. However, they truly don’t because as soon as someone says something to degrade them or lessen their value they are suddenly on “E.”
Next we have those who find themselves at the halfway mark. Those at the halfway mark show partial respect for themselves. However, for some reason they can’t get the respect they deserve from others. Then, you have those who are three fourths of the way full. These are the ones who have respect for themselves but as soon as they see failure or as soon as they are lower than that three fourths full mark, they are ready to just give up on themselves. Those who are three fourths of the way, talk down on themselves. Others see it then start to lose respect for them. They get partial respect from peers instead of the ultimate respect. Lastly, we have those who are full on self-esteem fuel! These individuals demand respect from their peers. They respect their abilities and most importantly they respect themselves. Granted, from time to time those individuals get a little low. However, they can bring themselves back up to full tank because they remind themselves daily of the good things (personal investment) in them.
So, what exactly is personal investment? Now remember, we are not taking about money. When was the last time you looked in the mirror and gave yourself a compliment about your hair, makeup, or outfit? Have you ever just walked passed the mirror and just smiled at yourself? We as humans try so hard to obtain some type of clarification that we are acceptable. We don’t always need someone else to give us the compliment we are looking for we can simply compliment ourselves.
Another form of personal investment is when you can recognize and embrace your positive qualities. I call it the list of me. Within the list of me, you can write down all your skills and talents. Once you are done with your list of me. I would hang it on the wall, or on my bathroom mirror. If you can have a list of me (you) and read it daily. You will be able to notice the increase in your self-esteem.
Does focusing on my self-worth make me selfish?
When you focus on yourself, people will assume you are selfish and will not feel the need to be associated with you. Focusing on yourself does not make you selfish. However, it does make you more aware of your life and what you expect from your life.
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*Disclaimer: I am not a professional therapist or psychologist. However, I have experienced a lot in life, and I do feel my views will help someone in some way as they have helped me. Please be advised these views are from my own opinion and life experiences. *