Omg! I absolutely forgot about my reader questions! Clearly I have been occupied with life. Sorry I forgot all about you guys and gals! So let’s get started shall we!?
This question is coming from a reader who asked to remain anonymous.
“How to handle a friends with benefits relationship without getting attached?”
Well, in my personal opinion. A “friends with benefits relationship.” Normally, don’t go that well for most people (personal experience). I really don’t have/know the “Dos and the Dont’s.” However, I can say that if your the person who really wants to have a relationship and to be loved. Then, a friends with benefits relationship will go against everything that you want.
Now, some people don’t want to be attached they just want to have the fling when needed and just call it a day. They really just want to go about life alone. However, this isn’t necessarily a bad thing. If you are one of these people then don’t feel bad. Some people just want to be able to live a little, I absolutely understand that.
However, I don’t like the fact when others go about doing things in a dangerous way. Always use protection, and as crazy as it may seem, get to know your “friend with benefits” sometimes it doesn’t have to be about sex, it can be someone to cuddle with and go out to eat with etc. just be sure its something you want to do. Don’t lose yourself trying to be something your not. Especially if you have a passion to be in an actual relationship.
In a friends with benefits relationship. Both parties need to discuss the boundaries, come to an understanding and just lay everything out on the table, its the only way things will work. I wish you luck my friend and I hope you find what it is you truly want. I hope everyone can take away something from this, because this is something we see often and people end up hurt of feeling less of themselves. However, be sure this is something you really want to do.
As always, everyone is AWESOME!
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*Disclaimer: I am not a professional relationship therapist or psychologist. However, I have experienced a lot in life, and I do feel my views will help someone in some way as they have helped me. Please be advised these views are from my own opinion and life experiences. *